Find Your People. Learn the Invisible Skills That Create Lasting Intimacy.

A 4-day retreat in Pai, Thailand where you'll transform friction into connection and finally find the depth you've been craving

November 21-24, 2025
Pai, Thailand
Maximum 12 Participants

"I was amazed at how my entire experience of others shifted during the exercises. People transformed from 'just another person' into someone unique and deeply valuable."

Sibylle
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Is this you? (Prepare to feel called out)

You're tired of surface-level friendships that never go deeper — stuck in small talk when you crave real intimacy

You meet people with potential, feel the spark... and then something invisible happens — they cancel, you pull back, the moment passes

You show up to meetups, workshops, therapy — you read the books, you try to be vulnerable, but somehow the soul-level connections stay just out of reach

You're starting to wonder if something's wrong with you — maybe you're too much, not enough, or fundamentally unable to connect the way others seem to

You find yourself thinking: "Why can I never get past surface conversations to real depth?"

"The retreat felt like a massive psychedelic journey, full of heart-opening and connection. People were pulled to this space by their hearts."

Ambika
Contemplative moment

The Missing Piece No One Taught You About Connection

Here's the truth no one tells you: The connections you're craving won't magically appear by just "showing up authentically."

The real issue? You don't know how to navigate the friction moments that either kill connection or deepen it.

When someone cancels, when there's a mismatch in energy, when you feel unseen — protective patterns take over.

You shut down and withdraw — or take it personally and push.

Either way, the very connection you're craving dies.

What if friction isn't the enemy of connection — but the doorway to it?

What if the cancellations, the misunderstandings, the moments that feel "off" are actually invitations to go deeper... if you knew how to stay present within them?

"I'm seeing that emotions I thought shouldn't bring connection actually DO. It brings even more empathy and connection with others."

David, Second-Time Retreat Participant

The 4-Day Journey: From Friction to Intimacy

1

Face Your Patterns

Discover how withdrawal, overthinking, and people-pleasing sabotage the very connections you crave. Learn the invisible mechanics of why connections fizzle.

2

Practice Staying Present in Friction

Use conflict, cancellations, and misunderstandings as portals. Practice staying curious instead of collapsing when someone pulls away.

3

Transform Friction into Intimacy

Express disappointment without punishing. Reveal experience without blame. Turn small talk into doorways. Embody the skills that create depth.

4

Take It Home

Integrate embodied practices you can use immediately. Leave with a clear framework to create connection in your actual life.

Workshop retreat setting
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Glimpses from Past Retreats

See the transformation, connection, and joy that happens when people find their authentic voice

Group workshop session
Pai mountain sunrise
Contemplative moment
Retreat facilitator
Group circle discussion
Pai landscape view
Mindful connection
Nature meditation
Authentic sharing
Sunset group reflection

"The most beautiful thing was witnessing everyone's journey from fear to courage, including my own."

Sarah, December 2024 Retreat

Real Transformations from Real Seekers

"I Wasn't Expecting Healing — I Got SO MUCH MORE"

"This retreat ignited deep emotional processes in me. I wasn't expecting this to be a healing retreat—I came for practical tools for dealing with conflict—but it turned out to be SO MUCH MORE. I feel immense gratitude to the group for how they showed up with me, and to Yaniv for creating the space where this was possible."

Jovian
"People Transformed from Strangers to Deeply Valuable"

"I was amazed at how my entire experience of others shifted during the exercises. People transformed from 'just another person' into someone unique and deeply valuable. I gained a deeper understanding that everyone creates their own experience, and that better communication is the key to connection."

Sibylle
"I Want More of This in My Life"

"The weekend exceeded my expectations. It was incredible to be part of such an authentic community for three days—I want more of this in my life! I woke up feeling softer in my body and more connected to myself. Already, I've been able to say 'no' and negotiate in ways that honor my needs. Though I feel sadness that this unique constellation has ended, I trust the journey ahead will bring even deeper connections."

Matthew
"Pulled by Their Hearts"

"People were pulled to this space by their hearts. I felt nurtured and wholesome the entire time. The retreat felt like a massive psychedelic journey, full of heart-opening and connection."

Ambika
"Emotions I Thought Shouldn't Connect Actually Do"

"Since this was my second retreat, I had even deeper realizations. My biggest lesson is around 'welcoming everything that is.' By bringing up jealousy and anger instead of hiding them, I found that they actually deepen connection. I see now that our human experience is messy—and that gives me more empathy and compassion for others."

David
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Meet Yaniv: Your Guide from Longing to Belonging

I know what it's like to crave deeper connection but watch it slip away the moment friction appears. As a neurodivergent, queer facilitator who spent years feeling like I couldn't quite find my people, I've learned that the connections we seek aren't found by avoiding friction — they're forged within it.

Now I help seekers discover that friction isn't the enemy of intimacy — it's the doorway.

Certified Authentic Relating Facilitator (7+ years)
IFS-Trained Coach specializing in relational patterns
Based in Pai, Thailand — creating containers for transformation
Creator of Relational Alchemy — where conflict becomes connection

"It is, without a doubt, one of the best workshops I've ever taken (and that's speaking from over 40 years worth of professional, personal, and spiritual workshops). The facilitators offer a beautiful balance of skill and heart. It's a beautiful combo for healing and transformation."

Marianne R.

What Your 4 Days Will Look Like

Morning — Regulate & Ground

Gentle somatic practices to regulate your nervous system and create safety in your body — because depth requires feeling safe enough to open.

Mid-Day — Learn the Framework

Skill-building sessions on the invisible mechanics of how connection deepens — the exact tools for navigating friction moments.

Afternoon — Practice in Real Time

Structured exercises with real people, real friction, real feedback — so the tools move from concept to embodied capacity.

Evening — Integrate & Connect

Integration circles and unstructured connection time — where the magic of "finding your people" happens naturally.

The Pai, Thailand Setting — Our mountain sanctuary provides the perfect backdrop for transformation: removed from daily triggers, surrounded by natural beauty, and held in a container of radical safety and welcome.

Here's How to Join

1

Book Your Free Clarity Call

Secure your place in this intimate 12-person container for transformation.

2

If It's a Good Fit, Secure Your Spot

We'll send you a secure payment link to reserve your space. Simple, straightforward, and completely secure.

3

Receive Your Pai Travel Guide

We'll send you everything you need: accommodation recommendations, travel instructions from Chiang Mai, what to pack, and how to prepare emotionally for the experience.

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Ready to Transform Loneliness into Belonging?

Standard Rate
$389
USD
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What's Included

Complete 4-day transformation program
All workshop materials and practices
Use of retreat facilities
Ongoing integration support
Lifetime access to practices and frameworks

What's NOT Included

Accommodation (we'll help you find suitable options)
Transportation to/from Pai
Meals (many great local options we'll recommend)
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Everything You Need to Know

Who is this retreat for?

This retreat is for seekers — people who long for deep, meaningful connections but keep finding themselves stuck at surface level. You're tired of small talk. You've tried meetups, therapy, workshops, self-help books......and yet something still blocks depth. If you're ready to learn the mechanics that turn friction into intimacy, you'll feel at home here.

What if I'm introverted or socially anxious?

Perfect. Many participants are introverted, neurodivergent, or socially anxious. We go at the pace of the nervous system. Everything is optional, consent-led, and you have full agency over your participation.

What makes this different from other connection workshops?

Most workshops ask you to “be vulnerable” but skip the hard part: what to do when friction arises. Here, you’ll practice welcoming cancellations, mismatches, and perceived rejections as portals to intimacy—through embodied reps, not just concepts.

What if I don't connect with anyone in the group?

That’s the exact material we work with in real time. If you notice disconnection or doubt, we’ll meet it with tools, curiosity, and facilitation so it can transform—instead of repeating the same pattern.

Do I need prior experience with Authentic Relating or IFS?

No. We welcome beginners and seasoned practitioners alike. You’ll be met exactly where you are and guided step-by-step.

What's the refund policy?

Full refund up to 60 days before the retreat. 50% refund between 60–30 days. No refunds within 30 days of the retreat start date.

Where do I stay?

Pai offers everything from cozy hostels to boutique resorts. After registration, you’ll receive a curated list of options within walking distance of the venue, plus booking tips and local insights.

How do I get to Pai?

Most fly into Chiang Mai, then travel 3–4 hours to Pai by minibus or private car. We’ll send detailed transportation guidance and recommended providers once you’re registered.

What should I bring?

Comfortable clothing for movement and sitting, a journal, a water bottle, any grounding items you love, and an open heart. A detailed packing list arrives after registration.

What's the group size and demographic?

Maximum 12 participants to protect depth and safety. Ages typically range from late 20s to mid 40s, with diverse identities and backgrounds. All are welcome.

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Turn Friction into Intimacy

Join a small group of seekers in Pai, Thailand and leave with embodied skills you can use for the rest of your life.

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Imagine This...

Six months from now, you've finally found them. Your people. The ones who get you.

Then friction hits. A misunderstanding. The exact moment where every other friendship has died.

The familiar pull to withdraw. To decide "see? Even these people don't want me."
But this time, you stay.

You pause. Breathe. Feel the fear—and share what's actually happening for you. Without blame. Just honest.

They lean in instead of pulling away.

The friendship doesn't just survive. It deepens in ways you didn't know were possible.

This is what happens when you have the tools.

The friction you've been avoiding? That's where intimacy lives. The cancellations. The awkward pauses. The moments that feel "off."

These aren't connection-killers. They're connection portals — if you know how to stay present within them.

You don't have to choose between being loved and being real.

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